Ladder of Years

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and like the woodcutter's honest son, he had chosen the youngest and prettiest, the shy little one on the right who didn't think she stood a chance." I first read Ladder of Years when I was a young mother in my thirties. I loved the book but didn't quite get it. I felt a little upset with the main character, Delia, for taking off and leaving her family while on vacation. Fast-forward 10+ years and I read the book again, (Yes, it is that good) and this time, after the first few chapters, I'm begging Delia to walk away from her family. I totally get it. Anne Tyler reveals every wife and mother's dirty little secret. Oh, how we would all love to take a walk away from what seems like an ungrateful (one reviewer described them as acrimonious), self-centered family and just keep on walking! Even though we might never actually do it, the percentage of women who have had that fantasy has got to be in the top percentages. Perhaps I should write another review in 30 years when I am her age, to see if my perceptions have changed. Un procedimento complesso che interrompo solo quando sono soddisfatta. Una cura quasi maniacale dei dettagli. The fact was, Delia was expendable. She was an extra. She had lived out her married life like a little girl playing house, and always there'd be a grown-up standing ready to take over--her sister or her husband or her father.

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I thoroughly sympathized with Delia: how often have we - as parents or caregivers - felt marginalized, unheard, taken for granted? Delia suffered enormously from her spontaneous decision to leave it all behind, but, ultimately, she gained from her self-inflicted suffering as well...

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little town of Bay Borough, and it is she who tests the love of her family, she who waits for a declaration. Logically, she should have found that a comfort. (She used to be afraid of dying while her children were so small.) But instead, she had suffered pangs of jealousy. Why was it Sam, for instance, that everybody turned to in times of crisis? He always got to be the reasonable one, the steady and reliable one; she was purely decorative. But how had that come about? Where had she been looking while that state of affairs developed?

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AT: With this particular novel, I did. (I don’t always.) I started my plot with an index card on which I’d written, years before, something like, "Woman leaves her family only to find in the end that she’s just been trying to figure out how to say goodbye when they leave her." It turned out to be slightly more complicated than that, but I always did have the book’s last line in my mind. In Bay Borough, the new, ascetic Miss Grinstead, who has left behind the complications of her life, finds new complications -- in other words, she finds a new life. At first, she is "alone, utterly alone, without the conversational padding of father, Micah Mortimer is a creature of habit. A self-employed tech expert, superintendent of his Baltimore apartment building, cautious to a fault behind the steering wheel, he seems content leading a steady, circumscribed life. This is rich material here, a story filled with twists and turns that could make your book club of 40+ women argue with delight. THE French have said that William Wyler, the great director of movies like "Dodsworth" and "The Best Years of Our Lives," had a "style sans style." Anne Tyler has this same deceptive "style without a style." OpeningIt's been a long time since I read this book, but unfortunately it was my first Anne Tyler book and I did not care for it. Eleanor tells Delia that after her husband's death reading the dictionary comforted and distracted her. Discuss rituals and habits that offer comfort in times of need. She also thinks of the younger man she met at the supermarket, who asked her to pretend to be his girlfriend because he'd just spotted his ex-wife in the next aisle. They see each other after that, though the relationship doesn't advance very But when that family sees you only as an unpaid housekeeper and constantly belittle you and scorn your suggestions and opinions, you either bonelessly disappear into your marginal role in their life, or you strike out and make a better life for yourself. Anne Tyler's dissociated characters have always been in danger of becoming annoying and a little boring, just like real unresponsive people. One sometimes has an urge to poke them -- hard. In "Ladder of Years," Ms. Tyler herself gives a

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In Ladder of Years, a familar Tyler theme is given free reign. Thats the examination of under-the-surface discontent, and furtive rebellion. "Moms” are all too frequently regarded as a piece of the household furniture. Uncomplaining, dutiful, sexless, predictable...?? Wrong. - Look more closely and there’s a more carefree individual, not so blankly compliant, fuelled by bodice ripping literature, wanting to express, and free herself. AT: Oh, definitely Belle is easier; she practically wrote her own dialogue for me. Although the challenge of someone like Joel is enjoyable in a very different way. AT: I hate to think about that. I know it will be painful. I felt downright cruel, letting the situation develop as it did, but I was certain that was the decision she would make. Delia and Ellie are both judged harshly for their decision to leave their families. Do you think society judges mothers more harshly than fathers if they leave?I was also bothered by the way in which the folksy narrator’s voice leaked into everyone else’s, so that you have adolescent boys saying improbable things such as, “You’re going through those hankies like a spigot.” He’s 13 but he sounds like a little old lady! This novel runs the gamut of being quirky and humorous to being downright depressing and dark. What Delia does, and how her family responds, is just. . . sad.