This is more than looks. The type of person that spends hours at a discipline. The type of person that doesn’t give into impulses. The type of person that can make a commitment AND keep it. Happy high status is a new way of thinking about confidence and how you relate to yourself. It's how actors and comedians enhance their presence on stage and screen. It lends strength and energy to your interactions, big and small, and is a way of projecting status, minimising self-doubt and moving effortlessly through life. Don’t be fooled however, this isn’t something you suddenly find and then always have! It ebbs and flows. However the more aware you are of what’s going on for you, the easier it becomes to find it when you really need it!

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no for now. The high status isn’t ‘floaty’ he is direct and decisive. This is reflected in conversation, movement and presence. 37. Be a master seducer Is there a way to move effortlessly through life? Perhaps not completely, but you can certainly get a lot closer to it today. Part talk, part workshop, this is a cringe-free masterclass on confidence and presence with comedian and bestselling author Viv Groskop, based on her new book Happy High Status. Groskop is also the host of the chart-topping podcast How to Own the Room, and her work is ‘recommended to anyone wanting more self-confidence’ by psychotherapist Philippa Perry. A great friend of mine said that happiness is smiling to yourself when you are alone in the elevator. Groskop goes on to argue that “happy high status” isn’t actually conferred by society. It’s an inner attitude that anyone can achieve, regardless of social hierarchy. And when it’s genuine, it’ll make your public speech resonate like nothing else — because it transmits that you’re at ease, happy where you’re at, and not trying to hide anything. But – and this is key – it’s impossible to fake happy high status.Together they explore a concept called ‘happy high status’, a new take on confidence that feels relatable and relevant to everyone no matter where your self-belief is starting from. Sarah and Viv talk about how to escape the enemy of happy high status (judgement or fear of judgement), useful words and ways to describe how you want to show up, and how to dip a toe in the water of ‘what if.’ Learn how to be the most confident and authentic version of yourself in this interactive workshop led by award-winning comedian Viv Groskop Networking is another great way to practice Happy High Status. Key points to remember when doing this:

Master the craft of having great first impressions. The intention would be that within seconds of meeting you this person is in awe. Happy High Status is a state of mind usually seen in celebrities, however, is more relevant to the ‘average Joe’ than you might think. From a celebrity standpoint, it is where their status is so high that they are confident that, whatever comes their way, their status will be retained. This is part of making a great first impression. Don’t mess this up. It’s simple but not always easy. 20. Don’t go out of your way to befriend high status people The high status man is a creator. He isn’t complaining about how the world is. There is absolutely no reason to complain. The high status man either accepts reality or works to change it. I’m currently reading “ How to own the room” by Viv Groskop, a book designed to help women become more confident speakers. It analyses famous women’s speeches – Michelle Obama’s, Chimamanda Ngoze Adichie’s, JK Rowling’s etc — and pulls out certain characteristics of their speaking style that make them exceptional. It’s a pretty good read (probably works for most blokes, too) and it’s got a few excellent bits. One of them is the idea of “happy high status”:

Charisma is a great starting point. Quoting Viv Groskop (Author of ‘How to Own the Room’), people with charisma have three qualities: If you are around a bunch of low-status people it’s easier to fall into their reality if you aren’t mindful. Her estimate is that populations begin to recover from major disasters around the 30-year point. She adds: “Our grandchildren will wonder about how we didn’t give it the respect it deserves.”

What sort of national conversation could we have? Should it be political? Led by the NHS? Or by psychiatrists? I don’t know what it would look like because everything is so polarised. Are we talking about a cross-party commission of truth and reconciliation? Would that be a healing process? Personally, I’m kind of over it. We have other apocalyptic things to worry about now.”Think about billion dollar problems. Think about your mission in life. Big thoughts fill your head. Contemplate BIG ideas. There is no time to be grounded in reality. 13. Touch people There is not an ounce of people pleasing or seeking for agreement when you communicate as a high status man. 31. Make statements rather than questions. Communication is your most valuable skill that CAN and MUST be developed. 30. Don’t talk with an upward pitch The world is your playground. You walk into a room and understand that it’s all a game. This is your playful philosophy on life. Of course, for many, the effects of the pandemic are unspeakably profound because of individual circumstances: mental illness, bereavement, grief, isolation, overwork, financial difficulties. But what about the more general effects on those of us who didn’t live through a specific horror? Are we all just supposed to forget this happened? Is that healthy?

High status people have incredible talk in between their ears that allows them to find pleasure in what low status people find painful. 5. Body languageNext time you are waiting, take this opportunity to think BIG THOUGHTS. The high status person is bigger than their problems. Samuel’s concern, though, is not so much for the general population as the outliers. “People with existing difficulties – whether related to mental health, finances or family – have had everything made worse by the pandemic. And their ability to get support is diminished because the demand is so great.” As mentioned throughout this article, Happy High Status doesn’t often come naturally. Like most things, it takes practice. This course has now passed, but you can be the first to know about the next one - and other workshops like this - by signing up to our newsletter here. You don’t finish your sentences with an upward intonation. This is an expression of people pleasing behavior. You end your statements and questions the same way they were started.