Manage sweaty hands: Sweaty hands tend to happen because of nervousness, so they’re a possible sign of nervousness. Effective hand movements: People respond effectively and positively to hand movements, so use them when speaking and to emphasize your points. Joe Navarro uses a very strong example of a man who used his hands extremely well to sway and convince crowds: Adolf Hitler. When we feel threatened, our bodies may respond with the “fight, flight, or freeze” response. This is an evolutionary response that helps us survive in dangerous situations. StoryShot #4: We Take Up Space When We are Confident, and We Make Ourselves Small When We are Insecure

After reading the book, I realized that some of the facts mentioned I have already known but always taken for granted; Such as "positive emotions drive gravity-defying gestures", some repetitive and stroking motions have soothing effect that help a person deal with stress, etc. There are also some new facts (for me) that are good to know. The young person or a student who thinks or feels like he is being deceived and misunderstood by his friends. We may use aggressive body language to invade someone’s personal space. This may involve standing too close, touching without permission, or following someone with our eyes. StoryShot #7: We Gain Rapport by Mirroring, or Reflecting, the Body Language of Others When we feel threatened, our bodies may also prepare to flee the situation. We may see this response in avoidance behavior or the desire to escape. Also, he recommends that you look at potential employers at an interview as looking all over “as if you owned the place” will unnerve them and make you look superior and disinterested.Weight Shifting: Placing hands on the knees and shifting the weight towards the foot placed in front while seated is an indication the person is ready and looking forward to getting up and leaving. When we feel cornered or threatened, our bodies may prepare for a physical altercation. We may see this response in aggressive or confrontational behavior. Chest puffing: A very clear aggressive pose that communicates the situation could escalate to blows. If it’s followed by removal of clothing to bare the torso it’s a further step towards physical confrontation. Weak shoulder displays: Shoulders coming up towards the head -the turtle pose- is a strong sign of major discomfort in the situation. The players of a losing team will do it, or the employees about to report on their accomplishments who haven’t had many accomplishments. 5. Nonverbals of the Arms

Just as careful listening is critical to understanding our verbal pronouncements, so careful observation is vital to comprehending our body language.”Confidence: People who tell the truth tend to be more convinced. For example, palms up display a suspicious “please believe me” attitude But there are also some very interesting things to be found. There were several instances where I thought to myself: "Yeah, that makes sense, I can see that." And there were even some things that I would probably never have thought of - but while the former was a breath of fresh air every now and again, the latter was an absolute rarity.

When a person talks to you with feet pointed away, it is a good indication this person wants to be elsewhere.Watch for people who make formal declarations in this position, as this is a form of distancing. Leg cleansing is one pacification behavior that often goes unnoticed because it frequently occurs under a desk or table… Some individuals will do the “leg cleanser” only once, but often it is done repeatedly or the leg merely is massaged. The “turtle effect” (shoulders rise toward the ears) is often seen when people are humbled or suddenly lose confidence. Commandment 9: Knowing how to distinguish between comfort and discomfort will help you to focus on the most important behaviors for decoding nonverbal communications. We lie with our faces because that’s what we’ve been taught to do since early childhood. “Don’t make that face,” our parents growl when we honestly react to the food placed in front of us. “At least look happy when your cousins stop by,” they instruct, and you learn to force a smile. Our parents—and society—are, in essence, telling us to hide, deceive, and lie with our faces for the sake of social harmony. So it is no surprise that we tend to get pretty good at it, so good, in fact, that when we put on a happy face at a family gathering, we might look as if we love our in-laws when, in reality, we are fantasizing about how to hasten their departure.”If you are a naturally observant person, one of those people particular key on detail then you will find this book more or less telling you what you know already. A lot of what is said in this book regarding reading people tends to be very subjective and the author admits this at multiple parts in the book. I won't lie and say there was nothing good or nothing learned here because there was actually some noteworthy portions and it served to confirm some of my already preconceived notions; on a whole I saw it as just a sea of useless fodder with just a small handful of note-worthy moments. Body language is great to spot how a person is feeling, or a disconnection between words and nonverbal signs. We express comfort or discomfort through our nonverbal cues. When we feel stressed, we may engage in pacifying behaviors to self-soothe. The next time you’re in a conversation, see if you can identify what the other person is feeling just by their body language. You may be surprised at how accurate you are. Rating

The truth is that identifying deceit is so difficult that repeated studies begun in the 1980s show that most of us—including judges, attorneys, clinicians, police officers, FBI agents, politicians, teachers, mothers, fathers, and spouses—are no better than chance (fifty-fifty) when it comes to detecting deception. Nonverbal cues for the fight response manifest as taking up more space. Someone in a fight response may make themselves look more prominent with a wide stance and puffed chest. Flight Response Nonverbal behaviors comprise approximately 60 to 65 percent of all interpersonal communication and, during lovemaking, can constitute 100 percent of communication between partners (Burgoon, 1994, 229–285).” Dominant men might also put their arms around the date on the first date as if it were her property. Some men might also put an arm around their woman it when they feel there’s a lot of competition around, which is one of the reasons why I wouldn’t recommend you do the same.Feet direction: The feet will point in the direction of what we like or the direction where we would like to move towards. If someone is talking to you but their feet are pointing away, it can mean they either don’t like you and want to disengage, or that they must go somewhere else. During courtship, and particularly while seated, a woman will often play with her shoes and dangle them from the tips of her toes when she feels comfortable with her companion.