Beyond Grief: Studies in Crisis Intervention: Studies in Crisis Intervention (Beyond Grief CL)

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Talk about your loved one. Say their name. Tell stories (or write them down). Talk to a friend who knew your loved one, and share in their sorrows even while sharing memories together. Talk to someone with wisdom and experience, such as a counselor, pastor, or older friend. Think of the memories you made together. Grieve that there will be no more new ones, and treasure the ones you recall. Things are valuable when they are both scarce and desirable. So think often of your loved one, and write down each memory as it comes to you. Each new scrap of memory you remember is like finding a golden coin, and worthy of rejoicing over. More: 83 Practical Ways to Comfort Someone Who Is Grieving What’s a good quote to say when someone dies? Whatever your past, current or future loss may look or feel like, remember that every loss is worthy of time and compassion

Trying lots of things and finding my tribe helped me rediscover me. I stopped thinking about what I didn’t want and started moving in the direction of what I wanted. I met friends, found new passions, and reconnected with my spirituality Finding love in helping others. It was then that I began to excavate the layers of who I once was. Remembering the younger version of myself and finding the best parts of me. Next was finding my purpose. There are all kinds of losses you can experience. Some of them are major life events that can change you profoundly. While others, which some may think are less significant, cause you to grieve, nonetheless. Read more: What to say (and what NOT to say) when someone has died What can I say instead of “sorry for your loss”? It might be loss of health, your own or a loved one’s, retiring from a long career, or the season of friendship ends. Listen. By all means, come with some of these mourning quotes and ideas in mind, some encouraging Scripture verses, a story of their loved one. Those all have a place. But first and foremost, listen. If your grieving friend needs to talk, be their ear. Don’t offer correction or advice in these early stages. Just listen. They need to process a wide range of emotions, and grief is a journey with many ups and downs. Prepare by reading about the “ 5 stages of grief“, it’s a basic roadmap of the grief process which will help you better understand.

Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom. – Rumi Now, let’s examine another example of loss but this time the loss is associated with shame/or a secret. J’s story

A slight shift came when the “year of firsts” passed: birthdays, anniversaries (when we met, when we married, when he died), Christmas and new year. The first 12 months are widely thought to be the worst but the second year is commonly harder. I’m sure the initial numbness that sets in is the brain’s way of protecting us – meting out only what we can handle, dosing our grief. The anaesthetic wears off during the second year, when we awaken to the reality of our predicament: we’re living with an impairment and will suffer the phantom pain of an amputated limb. Grief is like living two lives. One is where you “pretend” everything is alright, and the other is where your heart silently screams in pain. Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and oftentimes we call a man cold, when he is only sad. – Henry Wadsworth LongfellowWhen we lose someone we love, we can either die with them or live on to celebrate their life. I’m tired of focusing on what we lost. I want to focus on what we had. – Barbara Delinsky G’s symptoms worsened when she began to be unfamiliar with who B was and other members of her wider family. This deterioration was a devastating loss for B and it was with a very heavy heart that B made the decision, that for G’s safety and welfare, she needed to move into residential care. This decision left B feeling guilty and alone, causing him to enter the fourth stage of grief, depression. He now lives alone, and he has lost his previous comfort. In fact, he feels like he’s already said goodbye to G, even though she is still very much alive. Regret and guilt may be among the emotions you feel. There may be things you wish you could have said or done. When my middle brother passed away suddenly from complications of pneumonia, I spent weeks wishing I could have told him one more time how much I loved him and say goodbye. There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. – Albert Einstein

Affliction may one day smile again; and till then, sit thee down, sorrow! – Shakespeare, Love’s Labour’s Lost For me, the most common thing was being unable to sleep well. I couldn’t turn off my thoughts and worries. To help answer these questions, I want to explore different examples of loss, where feelings of grief can occur — hopefully helping to normalise the intense feelings that can come with any type of loss.Bring something. Food and flowers are always appreciated. Or some other items, like practical household necessities (does a grieving person shop for TP?) or a sympathy gift.